New year, new you.
As the New Year approaches, the topic of conversation is often around New Years resolutions and goals. I remember sitting at home with a brand-new baby thinking my New Years goal was to sleep. Sleep and maybe less screen time while feeding, but that habit felt impossible to break.
I was recently invited to a vision board party where you spend time, over wine, cutting up magazines and planning for your next year. What is your purpose, what are your visions, what are you goals for 2019?
Great question, as I look around my house. Laundry, toys, random socks, tired, and staring at the fridge wondering what to make for dinner. What is my purpose? Since becoming a mother, I am not sure I have given much thought to that at all. My simplest answer would be, to be the best mother to Landon. I am quickly reminded that there is still Amy inside of me, and I do have a purpose in addition to motherhood. So, here I am, days before New Years, googling – what is my purpose. Truthfully, its scary to admit that I feel lost – what is my purpose and goal?
Finally, after hours down a rabbit hole, I found a great article by Mark Manson called, “Strange Questions That Help you Find Your Life Purpose.” I loved how authentic and practical the steps where and think it is a great guide for anyone who is like me – completely knee deep in mom life.
What is your flavour of shit sandwich?
Everyone involves sacrifice, so the question is what sacrifice are you willing to make?
I reflected on this question and immediately remembered my routine with MOGA in its first year. Landon was only 6 months old when I started this venture (insert: adventure). I would put him down at 8pm and that is when my work day would begin. I would work from 8pm – 3am straight, balancing baby cries, night feeds and website content. Of course, as a single parent, there was no one to pass off to. In retrospect, I am not sure how I did it but I did. Why? It was my sacrifice (AKA shit sandwich) I was willing to make.
What is true about you today, that would make your 8 year old self cry?
We all tend to lose touch with what we loved as a child. This is the truth.
As a child, I loved playing teacher. I would line up all my dolls “in class” and begin my lesson for the day. I never did go into education, somehow that got lost along the way. Although, I can see my passion for teaching came out in another way through MOGA.
What do you remember as a child that you LOVED to do?
What makes you forget to eat and poop?
Easy answer, Motherhood! Oh wait, that is probably not what they mean by this question.
We have all been so absorbed into something that minutes turn to hours. I can honestly say for me that it is anything where I am empowering women. I love having coffee with someone to provide mentorship in her career. I love finding a mother who wants to own her own business. I absolutely love seeing women thrive.
I also lose track of time running, not sure how this links to my life purpose – but I will keep it here for now. Maybe its time I start my women learn to run club again, food for thought for 2019.
How can you better embarrass yourself?
Are you holding yourself back because you are worried about what others will think? This is absolutely my weakness. I tend to shrink.
When I first started MOGA, I was worried about what my colleagues in the corporate world would think. Luckily for me, I was so focused on supporting the mom community and drowning in single mom life, I had little time to actually sit and worry. Even today, I catch myself worrying about what others will think, in almost every decision I make.
Are you letting your ego get in the way of what you want to do? You are not alone on this one.
How are you going to save the world?
Find a problem you care about and start solving it.
This one hit home for me. I have always been a sensitive empath. What does this mean? I want to save the world and I get very emotional over the world’s challenges. I know one of my dreams is to adopt a child from Mexico, however, this might be a whole new blog post. A baby girl, in case you are wondering.
My absolute passion is to empower women to lead. I want them to take seats in places where historically they have not been welcome.
So, mama, I ask you again, what is your purpose for 2019? And if at all, your purpose and goal is to be the best mother possible – I think that is the most beautiful purpose in the world.
If you need some inspiration – finding your yoga mat always helps. Ground yourself in some MOGA.